What do you want to do? What’s getting in the way? How do we move forward?

Most people already know something is off. They're not confused about what's happening — they're stuck in it. The question isn't usually "what's wrong with me." It's "why do I keep ending up here, and what can I actually do differently."

The framework I use is called the Choice Point. It maps a straightforward sequence: a situation shows up, something hooks you — a thought, a feeling, an urge, a memory — and you move in a direction. Toward the person you want to be, or away from them. The goal isn't to get rid of the hook. It's to get enough space between the hook and what you do next to make a different choice.

That sounds simple. It isn't always. But it's concrete. You can write it down, draw it out, come back to it. That's the point.